I’m coming up on my 29th birthday this week and I’ve begun reflecting on how I can become a role model. What better place to start than the mentors in my life.
From soccer coaches as a young teen, to teachers at University, and cousins I’ve grown close to. But there is one person who stands out among the rest.
And I’m lucky to say that was my father.
We all have people that make a mark in our lives – for better or for worse. But it’s what you do with that influence which matters.
Because advice and guidance is only as good as the action you take on it.
I’m going to share 3 short lessons I’ve learned from my mentor and what it takes to become a role model.
Lesson No. 1
My father taught me many business and life skills, the first being the importance of communication.
Growing up attending business meetings and presenting at trade shows. I learned that most communication isn’t said out loud but rather through non-verbal cues.
“Listen and put yourself in their shoes” – he would say.
The second lesson I learn was how to be resourceful. Displayed by example, no matter what challenged lay ahead, he never let up.
Rather than confront an issue as an insurmountable wall, I was taught to find a way around, over or in between. And when I didn’t think I could find a way he would ask;
“If I paid you $1,000,000 dollars, would you be able to figure it out?”
God, I hated that question…
Lesson No. 3
The third lesson I learned from my mentor was to embrace failure.
Recognize failure as a stepping-stone to success. Because more often than not – you’ll fail at your first attempt.
JK Rowling rejected by 12 publishers.
Daymond John turned down by 30 banks.
Tim Ferriss blown off by 29 editors.
There is a common theme among great achievers – they don’t let failure stop them.
Become a role model
Become a role model by acting into your best self. Taking every action, spoken word and effort to be a mentor for those around you.
When someone gives up their most valuable resource, pay attention. Don’t waste the opportunity to watch and listen.
You don’t have to agree, but learn through experience to form your own views.
My mentors taught me how to become a role model through their actions and words. And going into my birthday this week, I look forward to continuing to put into action what I’ve learned from them.
But looking towards the future I have another role model I’d like to look up to, and that’s my future self.
Habit Challenge – Become a role model for yourself
Take a moment to picture where you’d like to be 5 years from now. Seriously, try it, even for only a minute.
Where are you?
What have you accomplished?
Who are you surrounded with?
Now, what decisions are you taking today to make that future a reality? You are that person 5 years from now, it’s time you start acting like it.
Show up each an every day as a person you’d want to look up to.
Don’t chase what others have, rather create the image of the person you want to be and strive to achieve that!
And then you can become your own greatest role model.